Welcome to the Monday update for real talk 2.0! We discuss our 10th episode of “Real Talk 2.0 Monday Edition! We also discuss why content creators are so important during these trying times… And then I talk about why I am always exhausted… Realtalk20.com
Also not playing WAP! … “You 2 should be ashamed of yourselves”!
Good Evening! and we are super late with getting this up but the important thing is that we did get it up! We love keeping our visitors updated on what we are trying to do! Yes! The last 24 hours have been kind of stressful but that is not an excuse to not do what we are supposed to do.
Please watch the video to get your dose of awesomeness!
I actually added some important stuff that is going on via GMF of Project Sounds fame (you can tune in tonite and every Friday night at 8 pm to hear him go in on EAJ Radio here)
Also big shout out to what Latif is doing on her blog and her workout videos here at Inoj Beautiful
That’s all I have for now! Make sure you watch the video to see what ever madness we have going on! Have an amazing weekend!
Here we are at another entry to Real Talk 2.0!
I wanted to try something different with how we get news and information about what we are doing here with monday Edition and Straight Outta Jersey! Feel free to contact us and let us know should we continue with this format or not.
‘Energy vampires are people who — sometimes intentionally — drain your emotional energy. They feed on your willingness to listen and care for them, leaving you exhausted and overwhelmed. Energy vampires can be anywhere and anyone’.
Just when you thought you had enough to deal with… Then here comes these MFs
Energy Vampire is kind of a dramatic way to describe the narcissist and passive aggressive people in our lives. In case you did not know? These are the people who will frustrate you to the point where depending on the relationship? You will find yourself really contemplating jumping off of a (very tall) building.
Their constant need for attention, there inability to make a decision for fear that they cannot blame you if there decision turns out wrong, their need to start discussions (and sometimes arguments that have no relevance but to take you off focus (I wrote about Focus yesterday here), and of course the need to pull you into whatever drama they can think of (or create)!
Ever announce something that you are working on that is important to you? And out of the blue you get a phone call or a visit from one of these Energy Vampires? Trust me! They are not there to celebrate or discuss how they can help or anything positive whatsoever! They are reaching out to you to figure out how to take away your focus with something so irrelevant and far away from what you are doing that they sound insane as the words come out of their mouths. They do this only for the purpose of weakening your resolve and dedication to whatever you are working on or what is important to YOU! Energy Vampires are well aware of the equation that you cannot keep a negative and a positive thought in the same place at the same time (some sort of mental quantum physics). Don’t believe me? Watch when they have succeeded in ‘putting you on tilt’ (taking your focus from the positive thought) I can guarantee you will see a little curled up smile on their face…
However, just like the bloodsucking Vampires of legend and lore. There is a way to destroy these creatures who only serve the purpose of making themselves feel better by destroying everything in your life and making sure they suck all of the energy from you to keep you from reaching your goals… And even though you may be contemplating it… Stabbing them with a stake through the heart is not at all acceptable!
1- Remove them from your circumference! Energy Vampires need to be able to see that they are sucking the life from you or that they have sidetracked you from your goals.
2- Do not allow yourself to be drawn into to irrelevant or negative discussions with them! A sure sign that you are dealing with an Energy Vampire is that they will fight tooth and claw to make sure that whatever they are talking about (even though you have said you do not want to discuss said subject) is discussed! Using passive aggressive techniques to try and make you feel bad for not allowing them to feed on your psyche! Examples like “You never listen to me”, “this is very important to me”, “You think everything is about you”…. These are warning signs that you are about to be drained of any and all positive energy you are trying to hold onto!
3- They will create a fire drill (drama situation)! Something that will guarantee your involvement so that you will have to give over your full attention so that you definitely will be unable to focus on and once again they can feed off of your positive energy! Solve the issue too soon? They will just find more ways to stoke the flames of the situation (or even create a new situation) until their appetite has been satisfied! Make sure you do not get involved with their shenanigans!
4- They will try to get in the way by passively blocking your progress with any and all of the above mentioned techniques! They are masters of getting in the way! However knowing the plan is a sure way to avoid the trap and holding on to your positive aura. Trust me, once they figure out that they cannot stop your progress or drain you of your energy The Energy Vampire will always move on to another victim!
… Because just like the creatures from myth they must satisfy their ravenous thirst by any and all means!
Stay safe and keep creating!
The world as we know it is full of distractions! With the present state of the world? Distractions are at an all time high!
So how do you stay focused? How do you proceed with making your dreams into reality?
You tune out the background noise! You practice the art of ignoring every thing, situation or person that does not fit into the process of getting your goals to the next level! You begin the process of telling your mind that the only thing that matters is seeing what you are working on to completion!
It’s definitely a process and I must admit that it is something that you must work on from moment to moment (I know I do).
You must decide right at this moment what is important to ‘you’!
It is important that I tell you that the process might seem painful at first. The trade off to becoming focused is that you will meet backlash from those around you that do not understand your ‘drive’.
You will lose friends…
People will tell you that you have changed…
People will say you have an attitude…
People will say you are moody…
I used to have a saying years ago when the creative side of me was screaming to get out “There are tourists and there are tour guides, I am tired of being a tourist”! This is how I began to look at the world as a creative and many of the people around me did not understand (and to this day there are still people who do not understand the concept)!
You really must decide what is more important to you! Other people really do not fit into ‘YOUR’ ambitions and dreams and goals. many people will not understand why you are giving up free time and party time to work on your inner passion to create and build something that only ‘YOU’ can create!
This is the sacrifice we make to be extraordinary! This is the sacrifice we make to create something amazing! this is the sacrifice we make to become a part of history, this is the sacrifice we make to have our name spoken across the world!
This is the reason why we must stay focused!
Last week for all intents and purposes was just a blur! Getting to the point where days would just roll into one another! The only thing standing out was “what do I need to work on today”! And then by noon I am asking Latif “What day of the week is it”?
Starting to realize that the name we assign to the day of the week is not as important as what we got done on that day!
The hustle for us is a 7 days a week/24 hours a day/365 days a year time investment! No real breaks, just moving forward to our goals until our brains begin to lock up and we have no choice but to get some rest. Just so we can re-charge our mental batteries! is it painful to live out life that way? At times it is. Is it frustrating to live this type of existence? Ummm yeah! Nothing like watching everyone you know posting about all the fun and relaxation they are having and we are trying to remember… Did you edit that video? Did you do updates to the site? Did you edit those pictures…
We do have a few markers so that we do not completely get lost…
Of course there is Real Talk 2.0 Monday Edition
Latif has her Sunday Update on inoj Beautiful.
We both have posts to put up every morning Monday – Friday on our blogs
Exercise Videos on Monday and Friday for Inoj
And then we have to figure out how to squeeze everything else into the week.
Is this a good way to live life? Probably not. Will it get us to where we want to be? More than likely yes! We are slowly finding out (some would say late in the game) that the speed that you reach your goals is intricately tied to the amount of grind you put into those goals
Sometimes all that fun and excitement (and overrated rest) will maybe help you in figuring out which day of the week it is and you might be able to walk away whenever you want to to go hang out and party…
But how is that helping you reach your goals?
Yesterday had to be one of the busiest days ever for this guy! Honestly though it was one of the most rewarding days ever!
In a nutshell I had promised Latif about 2 weeks back I would help her make a series of workout videos for her channel on YouTube between the insane heat and the workload that seemed to be piled on my shoulders for the last month with Real Talk 2.0 and R.E.D. Photography I kinda put it on the back burner (don’t judge me)…
Yesterday I guess the universe was pondering why I could not make the time for my partner in crime, best friend and soulmate (people always make time for the things that are important and for everything else they make excuses)!
So yesterday I got out of bed and stubbed my toe on a tripod (one of the heavy ones), almost knocked a camera off of a shelf and found one of the batteries in my underwear draw! The universe was definitely giving me subtle hints…
I did my morning routine and told Latif “hey baby! Let’s get this done”! We headed out to a pre-scouted location and that’s when the fun began!
We had a blast working together on this project and we were both so excited to the point that we sat for a while and mapped out a schedule for future installments of her workout videos.
I definitely am happy that the Universe pushed me by subtle (and a painful) hints to get this done and the lesson learned was that Latif and myself really do have the capability to take over the universe as long as we work together to make all of our goals a reality and continue to honor what we have as far as our relationship.
Truly believe that the secret to any relationship is to share each others unique talents to further the combined goals and get the relationship to the next level… and of course put in the bid to take over the universe like a power couple.
2020 has been one heck of a ride! In fact? If 2020 was an amusement park ride? I would definitely want my money back!
First off we have a genetically engineered virus that is killing people left and right across the globe with these guaranteed future effects… And yes! you can quote me on these predictions!
1- The mark of the beast or the microchip initiative.
Anyone notice that children were disappearing just before this whole Covid 19 thingy kicked off? (I guess the government had to park all of those white windowless vans and use them for mobile covid testing), children being kidnapped or harmed has historically been the way for the government to instill fear into the populace and push the agenda for having every citizen sign off on having a microchip implanted! The cell phone has served the needs of the government for tracking and seeing exactly where everyone is at… But a microchip that is implanted would give the government literally the power of life and death over every citizen!
2- The One World Bank.
So now we can basically only pay for things we purchase with a credit card or exact funds (the credit card is a form of tracking and information gathering)! So some selfish bastard is sitting someplace hoarding all of the money and change? Businesses that are still open are not making deposits anymore? Cash is now worthless? This is how the government will not only create a banking system that those in power will have control of down to the level of the individual! Control! Seems to be working out in Europe with the euro… Now Let’s combine a banking system that is global and your worth is now combined with that chip implant. You know how you pay with Apple Pay and Samsung Pay? Imagine the perceived convenience of walking into a store making a purchase and just walking out the store because your purchase will be deducted as you pass through the doors from that nifty microchip the government implanted! By the way you do know that stores have already begun marking products with micro RFID chips? Hmmm… wonder what they are preparing for?
Finally The One world Order…
This is what it all leads to… The wars, the terrorists attacks, the pandemics, the crashing of the economy, keeping the populace indoors doing nothing but watching the news (brainwashing and mood therapy), the fight of a people to to make the world realize that their lives matter as well, a sickness that has basically become the HIV and Ebola of the new millennium (did i say genetically engineered earlier?) and the populace of the world becoming even more fearful… We have by our own fears basically invited the government to come in and (act like they can) save the day! If you believe in conspiracy theories and know about the Georgia Stone you know that the population should be dropped to a more manageable number before the New World Order can be implemented… The last few years have been filled with wars, famine and sickness, kind of convenient don’t you think?
Everything else that is going on? Is just to take your attention away from the real agenda! Life in 2020 is really playing out like a Hollywood movie and while talking about fiction mirroring reality? here are a few movies to watch instead of making the news the only thing you put in your brain
Three The hard way
The Manchurian Candidate
We as a people have been invited to the greatest magic show ever! While we are looking all over the stage at all of these distractions the magicians are going to make us give them a standing ovation for tricking us into thinking we are happy!
Waking up everyday exhausted… Going to bed every night exhausted!
This is the life of an entrepreneur.
Now do not get me wrong, I am not complaining! But I would be faking it if I did not admit that the thoughts of how to make this easier does not go through my mind!
Just a thought though, because the reality is that we all have the same 24 hours in the day! That includes Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, and regrettably Donald Trump (who honestly should only be allotted no more than 2 hours a day to keep the damage level to the world at a bare minimum)!
It all depends on how you use those 24 hours… All the great speakers like Les Brown, Gary V and Eric Thomas will highlight the fact that you have to use as many hours as possible in that 24 hours to make progress on your dreams and goals! Nothing comes easy! There will always be hard work involved that will often lead to exhaustion (please see how I started this post).
When speaking to people about Real Talk 2.0 Jersey Edition I am amazed at just how many people are grinding towards there goal… Non stop! Then I look at people in my circle who are always looking forward to ‘down time’ and ‘relaxation time’ and let’s go have some ‘fun time’… The latter group are always the ones whining about how things are not working out for them while the grinders are always wishing they had more hours in the day to work on their goals.
This is and always will be the difference between the dreamers and the doers! The well rested and the ones who are actually accomplishing something!
This begs the question… Are you utilizing your 24 hours allotted to you every day to do something great or planning out your 24 hours to get as many fun breaks as possible?
In the end? It will always be the same 24 hours for everyone! How you use those 24 hours will reflect on how your goals are turning out So I suggest you use it wisely!
This guy is not new to creating content for Amazon Prime, it was the first home to ‘The Church of Real Talk’!
And the potential reach of Amazon Prime is insane!
There are however some major differences between the two…
1- Church of Real Talk just had me Speaking on Camera where there will be not only Latif and myself but a guest speaker for Real Talk… Basically meaning I have to get my multiple camera angle game correct.
2- Only quality guests? This is a no brainer! We can’t just have anyone on the show! We need people that will bring the correct energy to the table! So we have begun the process of interviewing people for consideration! A little extra work however well worth it to ensure the quality of the show. Church of Real Talk? It was just me and I guess I pre-vetted myself!
3- Mapping out and creating a complete season? Work, work and more work! Church of Real Talk was a standalone series and I could basically add new episodes when I felt like it… Not really a good way to keep a project alive! kind of like feeding a baby only when it is convenient for you! The belief system should always be forward or future mindset.
Now I already know someone is looking at this post and taking notes thinking they now have the blueprint to doing what we do. Honestly? I am happy if this helps someone get to the next level! I still look at life like the bread aisle in the supermarket… There are quality brands of bread and there are brands that will turn moldy in a day or two, but the selection is out there and people will always buy and support the brand that works for them and whatever budget they are dealing with.
So since we are in the process of creating assets for the show and getting our guest line-up for season one of Real Talk 2.0 Straight Out of jersey ready we would like to extend an invite to our fun, outspoken, outgoing, New Jersey based and knowledgeable visitors to contact us here for consideration to be a guest on Real Talk 2.0 Straight Out of Jersey!